#CuriousMoments with Advita

Nelson Mandela once said, “I never lose. I either win, or I learn.”

I have this quote in my motivation folder on my phone to remind me that failing at something isn’t something to fear. It’s a growth opportunity. Since reframing how I look at failing, my life has transformed.

It’s hard because when we’re in a failure spiral, all we seem to see around us are people seemingly swimming through life with no issues. This can knock our confidence further, and it can stop us from trying new things in the future.

Here are three things you can do immediately that will start to change how you think about failure:

1) Reframe your language. It’s not “I can’t do this!” say “I can’t do this, yet.” Or “I always get this wrong,” say, “This is new for me, and I know I’ll get better!”

It feels a bit uncomfortable at first, but I guarantee if you say this frequently, you’ll eventually start to believe it. I used this approach when I was planning the first InnerRebel event.

2) Appreciate the journey, not the destination. As cheesy as it sounds, don’t worry too much about the results. Focus on enjoying the learning you’re experiencing while heading towards the outcome. This applies to your personal and professional life. I used this in my fitness journey. I realised I focused too much of my energy on weight loss which led me to eventually lose interest because I didn’t see results quickly enough. As soon as I started to enjoy the experience, it all changed (if you follow me on Instagram (@advitap), you’ll know ????).

3) Find a mentor, coach or community. I feel I say this all the time, but if you’re worried about something, then speak up and share. Speaking up will help you realise you’re not alone in any of this and others also feel the same way. It can help reassure you and give you the push you need.

You’ve got this!

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